BROKENNESS

WHY ARE WE SO BROKEN?😑

Brokenness is not a new word in today’s generation. Many people are suffering in silence with some not knowing they are. What does it mean to be broken? Well, being broken is suffering pain so great that it changes the way you respond to everyday life. Feelings of worthlessness, inadequacy, drastic mood swings, and rejection are some indicators of brokenness.

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  FIVE SIGNS OF BROKENNESS

·         Low self-esteem

You lose confidence in who you are and what you are capable of. This is a saddening situation that leaves one with lots of regrets and unfulfilled dreams.

·         Stress

This situation is full of tension and anxiety towards oneself. These are feelings of being overwhelmed by events in your life and your body responds by providing more fight hormones. The mental alertness may increase, lack of sleep, and nervousness.

·         Difficulty relating with people

Everyday interactions with people may become hard. The reason could be that they may trigger your pain or remind you of your source of pain.

·         Poor performance

This is reflected in grades at school, rating at work, and the quality of products you may be making. When you are broken there are higher chances that there will be a noticeable decrease in productivity.

·         Lack of appetite

You may not feel like eating. Mealtimes could be a nightmare to you or forget to eat completely.

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5 REASONS YOU ARE FEELING BROKEN

·         Failed romantic relationship

We all have people we love and plan a future with. When the relationship ends we feel empty, lonely and ask a lot of questions on why it has to end.

·         Family feuds

Family feuds come along with segregation, hostility towards each other and enmity. This disintegrates the objective of the family which is unity. This breaks the members’ hearts and may result to a lonely path of brokenness.

·         Disloyalty

We trust some people and some things very much. When a malfunction or an unexpected action occurs we are overwhelmed with disbelief that the trusted person has the capacity to do you bad. Actions of disloyalty are such as a friend leaking your secret and being sly.

·         Failed dreams

We all have dreams and work hard towards achieving them. When we fail to achieve our goals and targets we most at times feel like losers. This creates pain and feelings of inadequacy.

·         Peer pressure

Our peers may make us do things we dread doing. When you give in to this peer pressure you may end up doing things you will live to regret or things that do not sit right with your conscience. Your inner self may feel violated and be a constant reminder of your pain.

COLLECTING THE BROKEN PIECES

Pain can hold one hostage and we are not obligated to remain tied down. There comes a time when you have to rise from the dirt, shake off the dust, and move forward. It is not always easy but it is a necessary decision. How do you collect the broken pieces? Here are a few tips:

Analyze yourself

Take time to look into yourself. Are you okay? What is the root cause of your brokenness? What can you do to change the situation?

Seek help from a close person

Talk to someone your trust about your issue. This will give you a better look at your problem from another person’s perspective.

Seek professional help

Some problems have to be handled by professionals. They can offer therapy to help you out of the problem.

Create new habits

Avoid things that cause you pain and focus on healthy habits. For example, you can subscribe to gym sessions, eat healthy foods and meditate.

Affirmations

Create positive reminders to encourage and motivate yourself. Make them habitual and walk in their meaning.

Keep a journal

Have a place where you will be writing down your thoughts and aspirations. This will help you relieve the conversation in your head and get better insight into the written notes.

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MOVING FORWARD

When you are stable and back on your feet, you ought to move forward. It is a bold decision to propel yourself forward against all odds. How can you do this easily? Here’s a simple way on how to move forward:

Live in the present

Forget about the past and the fears of the future. Live each day at a time and be grateful.

Accept positivity

Accept things that bring growth to your life.

Be gentle with yourself

Handle yourself with patience and you will reach where you desire.

Engage in self-care

Pamper yourself and reward yourself with comfort things. You deserve it!

Focus on your goals and objectives

Let go of the pressure and the noise around you and focus on your goals.

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